Day 2: You're not an Accident
"You are not an accident. Your birth was no mistake or mishap, and your life is no fluke
of nature."
I bet you are, or you know, someone whose birth was characterized as an "accident". Believe me, there is no such thing.
Your parents might not plan for you, but it does not mean you're an accident. It does not mean you're any lesser than anybody else. I witnessed a friend of mine getting bullied because her mom was a "slut" and her birth was unplanned. It does not make me see her any less. It should not make anyone see her any less. Your value is equivalent of that from anyone else. Once you were born, you have an equal chance of spending your 24 hours a day for numerous year.
So the difference between your life and your friends' life is that how efficient you spend your 24 hours a day. No, sleeping in for 12 hours a day is not an efficient way to life. Neither is putting 18 hours to remember all the formulas for math, all the reactions for chemistry, all the dates for history or all the poems for literature. No, an efficient day is a day that you go to sleep, knowing more than you woke up. That means you gain more than you lose that day. Things that range from knowledge to relationship, to emotion and even yes, tragedy.
Everything that happens in your life doesn't happen for a reason. Everything that happened in your life, in your control or not, is caused by something else. It is how this world works. Tragedy happens, and it's not necessarily your fault, but someone causes it to take place. Maybe that's the drunk driver who crash into your parent's car. Maybe that's the tumor cell that spreads in your grandpa's body. Maybe that's the damn bitch who leads your boyfriend on. Maybe that's your fault you submit to the pleasure without considering the consequence. When someone makes a choice, he chooses the consequence.
So I advice you, and myself, to not look at the tragedies in your life as your fate, only to cry and cycle back to the useless depression you have. Instead, you should look at your past, your experiences, your moments, your tragedy, with a sense of appreciation that you learned something from that past, no matter how dark it is. A mistake is only a mistake when you don't learn from it. If you do, consider it the investment in your future.
I lost a friend. I went through the five stages of grief. I got depressed. I spent each day wishing to see that person once more time. I was angry at the people who caused my lost. But then I realized she would never come back to me, that I might not see her ever again. No matter how stubborn I was, I had to inevitably accept that fact. After all, acceptance is the last stage of grief, right?
No, I believe in two more stages: reflection and learning. I was afraid to look back, but now I am able to. And when you look back at something, your brain becomes a third person who sees through everything. You would find out what you did wrong, or what you could have done. Then you realize it was your fault that it happened. Thus, you vowed yourself to not let it happen again to anyone you love. You've learned your lesson, the hard way.
But it was better than not learning it at all.
So, the next time you go through something, remember it is not by fate. It is by choice, and it is also your choice to turn that conflict into something positive in your life.
Because every little things are gonna be okay.
Nothing is an accident.
Including you.
Best,
of nature."
I bet you are, or you know, someone whose birth was characterized as an "accident". Believe me, there is no such thing.
Your parents might not plan for you, but it does not mean you're an accident. It does not mean you're any lesser than anybody else. I witnessed a friend of mine getting bullied because her mom was a "slut" and her birth was unplanned. It does not make me see her any less. It should not make anyone see her any less. Your value is equivalent of that from anyone else. Once you were born, you have an equal chance of spending your 24 hours a day for numerous year.
So the difference between your life and your friends' life is that how efficient you spend your 24 hours a day. No, sleeping in for 12 hours a day is not an efficient way to life. Neither is putting 18 hours to remember all the formulas for math, all the reactions for chemistry, all the dates for history or all the poems for literature. No, an efficient day is a day that you go to sleep, knowing more than you woke up. That means you gain more than you lose that day. Things that range from knowledge to relationship, to emotion and even yes, tragedy.
Everything that happens in your life doesn't happen for a reason. Everything that happened in your life, in your control or not, is caused by something else. It is how this world works. Tragedy happens, and it's not necessarily your fault, but someone causes it to take place. Maybe that's the drunk driver who crash into your parent's car. Maybe that's the tumor cell that spreads in your grandpa's body. Maybe that's the damn bitch who leads your boyfriend on. Maybe that's your fault you submit to the pleasure without considering the consequence. When someone makes a choice, he chooses the consequence.
So I advice you, and myself, to not look at the tragedies in your life as your fate, only to cry and cycle back to the useless depression you have. Instead, you should look at your past, your experiences, your moments, your tragedy, with a sense of appreciation that you learned something from that past, no matter how dark it is. A mistake is only a mistake when you don't learn from it. If you do, consider it the investment in your future.
I lost a friend. I went through the five stages of grief. I got depressed. I spent each day wishing to see that person once more time. I was angry at the people who caused my lost. But then I realized she would never come back to me, that I might not see her ever again. No matter how stubborn I was, I had to inevitably accept that fact. After all, acceptance is the last stage of grief, right?
No, I believe in two more stages: reflection and learning. I was afraid to look back, but now I am able to. And when you look back at something, your brain becomes a third person who sees through everything. You would find out what you did wrong, or what you could have done. Then you realize it was your fault that it happened. Thus, you vowed yourself to not let it happen again to anyone you love. You've learned your lesson, the hard way.
But it was better than not learning it at all.
So, the next time you go through something, remember it is not by fate. It is by choice, and it is also your choice to turn that conflict into something positive in your life.
Because every little things are gonna be okay.
Nothing is an accident.
Including you.
Best,
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