Day 17: "See what I see!"

"I like to turn things upside down, to watch pictures and situations from another perspectives"

Me: “You can win this in two moves”

Silence….

Five hours (approximately) later…

Dillon: “I don’t see what you see.”

It’s okay. Not many people do.

I would like to think that the way I think is different, it’s too analytical, too dry, too logical, too conceptual. I see things other don’t by really digging into the problems. I run solutions in my mind to determine their results, thus choosing the consequence that is most desirable. This makes me a robot.

Sadly, I can’t apply this to people. I can’t input their information and run their data and react accordingly. I couldn’t quite get it. Sometimes I catch myself thinking, “Why would someone do this, or that?” Sometimes the things people just, well, don’t make sense to me. Then, I realize it’s me that the problems lie in. I learned it the hard way that people don’t think the same way I think, feel the same thing I feel, and do the same things I do. Everyone is different.

So when Dillon doesn’t see what I see, I can’t blame him, because he just might have a better idea in his mind that I don’t know. Everyone has a different perspective on things, because mainly their experiences are different. Their emotion, feelings, actions are driven in a way that is unique to them and I can’t completely understand it. But the least I could do is start learning how to respect others’ opinion and see the situation from their side. I’ve been telling myself that I’m not the only one who is struggling and what others see is not what I see. I start putting myself in others’ shoes, stimulating their experiences and estimate their reaction. It won’t always be true, in fact, I don’t think it will ever be completely correct, but doing this helps me to understand everything better. After all, I’m not the only one on Earth. Sometimes, you have to look at your opponent’s view on the chessboard to see what your opponent sees.

As for the chess match, the best view is always in the side view.

As for your loved ones, the best view is always from their side.

Truly,